couples therapy
Couples therapy
This might be you two
You have the same argument on repeat. Different day, different trigger, same fight. Nobody wins and nothing changes, and you're both exhausted by it.
One of you wants to talk. The other is exhausted by all the talking. One of you is doing everything and still feels unseen. The other feels like nothing they do is ever enough.
You're navigating something big together — a move, a new baby, a career change, a loss. You love each other but the pressure is exposing cracks you didn't know were there.
One of you is carrying more than their share and nobody knows how to fix it. It's not that your partner doesn't care. It's that the gap between what you need and what they're giving keeps widening and you don't know how to close it without it turning into a fight.
You looked up one day and realized you feel more like roommates than partners. The love is still there. The closeness isn't.
You want a space to intentionally explore what comes next. The big conversations about values, kids, finances, and what you actually want your life to look like together feel important enough to explore before you say "I do."
Trust got broken, something was said that can't be unsaid, or there's been a slow erosion that finally became impossible to ignore. You're not sure if you can come back from it but you want to try.
One of you made this appointment. The other isn't sure they want to be here. That's okay — a lot of couples start that way. Showing up is the first step.
You have the same argument on repeat. Different day, different trigger, same fight. Nobody wins and nothing changes, and you're both exhausted by it.
Couples therapy
The work of coming back together
Imagine leaving a session having said the thing you've been trying to say for months and having your partner actually hear it. Not necessarily agree with it, but hear and acknowledge it. You start to understand why certain things land so hard for them, and they start to understand the same about you. The hard conversations don't disappear, but there's more trust and ease when navigating them. You repair faster and reach for each other sooner.
The hardest part about trying to fix a relationship dynamic is that you're inside it. You're both activated, protecting yourselves, and trying to be heard. Having someone outside the dynamic who can catch the pattern mid-loop and gently interrupt it before it runs its course changes what's possible. My role isn't to referee or take sides, but to help you learn and try something different in real time, in the room, together.
Before you reach out
FAQ
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No, I'm self-pay only. I full-heartedly believe that your mental health deserves coverage, but accepting insurance means spending time fighting for coverage instead of providing actual care. Being self-pay allows me to provide high quality, in-depth therapy for a small caseload. I provide superbills so you can submit for potential out-of-network reimbursement. Coverage depends on your plan, so contact your provider directly to see what your out-of-network benefits are.
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The intake session is $200. All following sessions are $175. I recognize this is a significant investment and show up accordingly.
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I offer three sliding scale slots for those who need it. Reach out to see if one is currently available.
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We start together. After a few sessions I usually like to meet with each of you individually — it gives me a better understanding of your personal background and context, which makes our joint work stronger. Then we come back together. I may recommend individual sessions periodically throughout our work depending on what comes up.
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In early sessions, I'm getting to know you. We'll talk about how you came to be, how you see yourselves as a couple, what you each want to work on and why.
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Weekly to start. Meeting weekly in the beginning helps us build understanding, trust, and momentum. Once we've established a solid foundation, clients have the option to move to every other week or monthly depending on where they are in their work.
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For couples I work primarily from an EFT and Gottman lens. EFT is about understanding the dynamic you keep getting stuck in and how to interrupt it. Gottman is about building on friendship and mutual vision by focusing on the mechanisms of communication, repair, and trust. I also draw from attachment theory and person-centered approaches throughout.
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TBH, it depends. Some come for a defined season and others stay because the work keeps deepening. I don't believe in seeing people for longer than they want or need. I'll consistently check in to make sure you're getting what you came for.
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Then we find you someone who is! I check in after 3-4 sessions to make sure things are moving in the right direction. If it's not working, I'll try to help connect you to someone who's better suited for you. Your time and money matter too much to stay somewhere that isn't serving you.
Next steps
Getting started doesn't have to be hard
Schedule a free 15-minute call
Book your call here. We'll all chat together (no prep needed). Just a vibe check to see if we're a good fit.
You decide
If it feels right, I'll email everything you need to get started and we'll schedule our first session. If it's not a fit, I'm happy to help point you in a better direction.
We begin
In the first session, we're getting to know each other while moving at your pace. I'll ask you questions to better understand what brought you in, how you each see things, and what you're hoping to get out of this.